Child Abuse Story From Dan Part 2

by Dan
(Wisconsin, USA)

I am now an adult, and have never told this to anyone. Most of my childhood abuse I blame on my parents. (See Part 1 of Dan's child abuse story on this site.) This story takes place from the time I was 6 through my 12th year.

My parents used only two babysitters. One was Karen, a neighbor girl who was 6 years older than me. The other was Stacy, my parents' friends' daughter, who was 3 years older than me. Whenever my parents went out, it was always to a family wedding, which involved having an all-day sitter. The sitter was to make lunch, supper and give me my bath. I didn't think too much about the baths, until I turned 10. Why couldn't I give myself a bath? My parents insisted that the sitter do it.

Stacy was 15. I was 12. She would fill the bathtub, have me get in, and she would wash me with soap and her bare hands. She would insist on drying me off. She would never have my pj's in the bathroom or laid out. She would have me stand there naked while she went through my dresser, looking for them.

Once, Stacy asked my parents if her friend could come over while she was sitting for me. My parents didn't care. That night I couldn't believe that Stacy let her friend watch her give me a bath. Here I was, two girls looking at me naked. My parents never thought anything of this. They thought Stacy was the greatest.

Most of my abuse was that I was exposed in front of babysitters, cousins, aunts, uncles, and my parents' friends. It was like they didn't care what I thought. To this day, I still wonder what they were thinking. Sometimes now, I have nightmares about my past.

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Child Abuse Story from Dan Part 1

by Dan
(Wisconsin, USA)

I am 57-year-old male. I was physically abused through spankings. It was how I was spanked and the penance afterward that made it abusive.

I was always spanked naked. My parents believed a spanking should not be done with clothes on because you don't feel the punishment. Afterward, I was made to stand naked, most times in a corner of a room facing out so I could face those who I hurt or offended. It was done to embarrass me for not being good.

When I was naughty, my parents gave me the spanking I deserved on the spot. There was no saying, "Just wait till you get home" or "Wait till your dad gets home." There were times I got a spanking at my grandparents', my uncle's, and my aunt's home, even at the homes of my parents' friends.

Once, when I was 12, I got a spanking at the home of some friends my parents. Us kids were playing ball. We got into a fight over who was up to bat, and I pushed their son down to the ground. My dad made me remove my clothes right outside in their yard, and spanked my bare butt with his belt, and then made stand alongside the house, naked.

Another humiliating time happened when I 15 years old. We were camping on a private lake with my parents' friends Al, Mary, their twin girls, Jean and Joan (age 13), and their son, Steve (age 10). The four of us were out in about 4 feet of water, playing catch. Steve was on an inner tube. Just as a joke, I yelled shark, shark. I told Steve they were going to eat him. He started screaming and turning a fit. Mary had a hard time calming him down. My dad was so mad at me, he made me take my swim suit off right in front of everyone, and whipped my bare butt with his belt. Then he had me stand there naked in the middle of our camp area, in front of Jean and Joan, for 1 hour. The girls just stared at me. I don't think they ever saw a naked 15-year-old boy.

See Part 2 and Part 3 of Dan's child abuse stories on this site.

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Child Abuse Story From Dan Part 3

by Dan
(Wisconsin, USA)

My abuse took place over 30 years ago. This time I was 17 years old, a junior in high school. (See Part 1 and Part 2 of Dan's child abuse stories on this site.) At 17, I still had not reached puberty. I was totally hairless. No pubic hair, not even hair on my legs.

The guys in gym class always made fun of me. My nickname was "baldly." Not being an athlete made things worst for me, because I was not one of the guys. Because of this, I was a victim of abuse. It happened one night after dinner. Karen, who's brother was in my gym class, asked me to come over so that she and I could go for a walk in the woods. We were about a 1/2 mile in the woods when her girlfriends showed up. They started pulling my clothes off. I couldn't fight off the 10 of them. Soon I was naked. They were laughing and calling me "baldly." After a while, they pushed me to the ground and ran off with my clothes, leaving me naked on the wooded trail.

The next bad thing to happen was when I was drafted in the army. I was 19 and still no body hair. The guys in basic training called me "sugar."

One night, I woke up to having one guy holding my arms down, another guy holding my feet down, while one guy was rubbing his penis against my mouth, telling me to open up. Another guy was rubbing my crotch area, and saying, "Hey sugar, you're so soft and smooth. We hope you stay this way." I reported it to my drill sergeant. Nothing changed. It only got worse. They would hold me down while one of the guys would climb on top of me and rub his body against mine, at times discharging sperm on me. At times I wished I were dead.

Now after 30 years, I am having nightmare about this. Outside if this article, I have never said anything. My wife doesn't know yet.

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Child Abuse Story of Healing and Recovery From Dan Part 4

by Dan
(Wisconsin)

After writing my bio (links to those pages on this site are below) I started see a counsellor, so things got a little worst before they got better. First off the strapping with belt being naked was my parents and others way to make me submissive, so I would not run; I would stand in place and take my punishment. I discovered also that my uncle was allowed to punish me this way when I spent the summers on his farm, with him, my aunt and their 6 daughters, all of whom were around my age.

The part about baths by babysitters was partly due to my own neglect as a child; I would at times defecate in my underwear because I would wait until I could no longer hold myself from going in my pants. So my parents allowed my sitters to bathe me to make sure I was clean. So this just gave Stacy (the babysitter) and her friends the opportunity to take advantage of me.

I also learned that while I stayed with my uncle and aunt on the farm, my aunt would bathe me with my 2 younger cousins who were 2 and 3 years younger than me and allow the other girls who were my age and a little older to watch. This went on until I was 12 years old. Like Stacy, many times my aunt would not have pj's or clothes in the bathroom for me to put on so I would have to run naked in front of the girls to get to my bedroom to get dressed.

The part about what happened in the Army was because I was so submissive that I allowed people to take advantage of me. I never fought back or stood up for myself; I was weak.

I am now coping with all of this so I can sleep better at night and to forget, forgive and go on with my life.

See Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 of Dan's story on this site.

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