Chanelle's De-stress Formula

by Chanelle
(London, England)

When the memories get too vivid and I need to get myself out of my negative thinking cycle, this is what I do to get the endorphins kicking in. Below are a few tips I use on myself:

  1. Embrace each thought and feeling. They are important. Don't be afraid to question them.                     They'll get you traveling places (emotionally).


  2. Articulate the feelings or thoughts into a poem or writing. Writing poems is a great source of release for me.


  3. Do visualisation exercises. Imagine you are already healed. Imagine yourself having and experiencing the happiness you've always wanted. Through visualising, you can make it into a reality.


  4. Yes, believe it or not, working out at the gym gets me feeling positive. Popping into the steam room is great too. It's good for external and internal appearance.


  5. As obvious as it may sound, accepting myself regardless of my mistakes or downs is priceless. Rejoice in your OWN identity. ACCEPT AND LOVE THE PERSON YOU ARE!!!
Healing comes through time and perspectives. Most of all, I think healing can only come once the "bad feelings have come out, only then can the good ones come in," as one philosopher states.

I wish all those who have suffered—who are suffering—will experience real happiness and comfort.

All the best,
Chanelle

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Oct 07, 2007
Very sound tips
by: Darlene Barriere

Excellent formula, Chanelle! I've lived by this formula for many years now; and I will be the first to say, it really does work. Yes, especially the workouts. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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