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Can children mistake sodomizing for a whipping?

by Annetta
(Slater, Missouri, USA)

I wish people knew that a sign that a child is being sexually abused is: They are scared to death of a whipping from someone in particular.

It seems that children think they are being whipped when they are actually being sodomized. Is this true? My nephew was scared to death of a whipping from my sister's boyfriend. He said that the boyfriend would lay him on the carpet and pull his pants down and whip him so hard and hurt him so bad. He was three years old at the time. My niece was scared to death of a whipping from her uncle on her dad's side of her family. She said he would take her in the bedroom and whip her. She was three years old at the time.

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Apr 06, 2008
Fear of whippings...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Whippings in and of themselves are terrifying to children of any age, let alone children who some would consider still babies.

As for whether or not a three-year-old child can mistake sodomy as a whipping, it's very possible, especially if whipping and the pain associated with it is what they have come to expect for discipline. Children can only articulate what they understand. A very young child who is used to being whipped on the backside for discipline can easily associate any other kind of physical battery of their backside as a whipping. However, that doesn't mean they've actually been sodomized.

If you suspect sodomy or any other abuse of these children, you have a moral obligation to report.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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