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Mar 02, 2017
To idontwantthecredit:
by: Darlene - Webmaster

I know you submitted your story quite some time ago. I've been dealing with eye issues that have made reading online a major problem. My apologies for taking so long to post.

Poignant, disturbing and heartbreaking all at the same time.

What struck me harder than anything is that you are ashamed of you. My goodness, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Many many years ago, I shared my own story with my therapist and also that I was "ashamed". His surprised and questioning response was life-altering for me: "Ashamed...? Of being a victim...?" It shocked me into realizing that I wasn't to blame for what I had experienced and endured.

This is how I see you: Resilient. Determined. Smart. Resourceful.

You did what you had to do to survive and to cope with the pain. You have a great deal of self-preservation skills. These are what kept you going when you had nothing else.

And now you DO have something else in your life. Someone who loves you, even if you don't love yourself.

It's time to start your healing. To start seeing yourself for the remarkable person you really are: Strong. Very strong.

I send you love and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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