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Abuse Story From Christina

by Christina
(USA)




When I was 4 I met this boy named J--- and he seemed really nice, and he lived right up the street from me! We became best friends and always talked. My twin brother also would hang out with him. I noticed a change in J--- when my brother and I were 8 and he was 9. He would start wrestling us and slamming us into the ground for no reason. He would do this behind the church, by the hug tree. I just assumed he was being a boy and brushed it off as nothing. This kept progressing and when I was 10, he would separate my brother and me, since we lived near the woods. He would take me into the woods and then his brother would take my brother into the woods but on the other side. J--- would walk me over to a tree and he would push me against it. He wouldn't take off my clothes but he would push me against the tree so hard that I actually had bruises on me. He would hump the tree make noises. He would act like he was going to rape me, but never did. Then he would walk me back to meet up with my brother. One day when my brother went hunting with my dad, J--- and B--- talked me into going into the woods with them. They walked me deep into the woods and B--- pushed me against a tree. He was J---'s older brother! J--- would hump the tree next to me then punch it, it was not a skinny tree, yet not a thick one. He would break the tree. I guess to show me what he was capable of. Then B--- would do the same exact thing to the tree. The next day, my brother and I were at the church hanging out with them, and B--- held me back as J--- took off his leather belt and whipped my brother, and then they switch my brother and me. Just whipped me with the leather belt and it hurt! My brother and I went home. When I was 11, just randomly ran after my brother and whipped him harder than ever before with a Leather belt, so I kicked him and he slammed me so hard to the ground he knocked the air out of me and then put all of his body weight on me so I couldn't breathe! When he got off, I called the police and he ran. I only told my parents and the police about the leather belt and J--- whipping my brother. We tried to get a restraining order against J--- but it was denied. I never would talk to J--- again, and I started healing from my bruises and cuts. Right before I turned 13, I was walking my dog and J--- came out of nowhere and told me to be careful, because pretty girls like me get raped a lot in the woods, and it hurts! He was like warning me for what he may do or someone may do in the future. I'm now afraid to be in the woods alone or with a guy. I feel intimidated, but I try not to show it when I'm with any guy. I am afraid to get hurt, I dot want to ever go through the pain I did, from when I was 4- last year when I turned 13. I am about to turn 14 and I am tryig to move on, but I have never told anyonethe true story of what happened until now! Even though J--- lives up the street from me, I hope he will never bother or hurt me again. I hope nobody will. I don't blame myself, but in a way I do, because I was the one who kept going with them, I never screamed or told anyone. But at least I was never really raped by them. Thanks for readig this and God Bless You!






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Abuse Story From Christina

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Jun 07, 2011
Christina:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

While you were definitely hurt and dealt with assaultive and inappropriately sexualized behaviour from these boys, what happened to you does not fall under the strict definition of "child abuse". That doesn't make the pain of it any less; and please don't think I'm trying to invalidate what you endured. And to my other visitors, please don't write me with your objections; I am simply going by the "legal" definition of child abuse here. I don't write the laws. Assault is one thing; child abuse is quite another. I don't generally post non-child abuse stories, but I've made a single exception here.

Christina, I do hope you'll tell the whole story to someone who can help you. Plus the fact that these boys are seriously troubled; they've likely been abused in similar ways themselves. They WILL hurt someone else if at least one of their victims does not speak out. And as they get older and stronger, their assaultive behaviour will likely escalate. Tell someone. You and your brother deserve help for what you've been through. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Jun 09, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Christina: Truly remarkable: Darlene has allowed your story on here to educate many of us who like-wise were assaulted as children and older teens but this would not be regarded as child abuse by law: Darlene knows best and wants what is the best for each of her visitors: Her loving advice to you for the sake of yourself and your brother is get help: Telling and trusting someone with your real life story at the hands of those boys is really important: You may be helping them too to get help so that they won't harm another innocent vunerable child or children as they did you as young adults: Christina: I know you'll do what is the best for all concerned: Some form of counselling or telling of your story to a caring teacher or school counsellor may be a place to begin: Hi at 14 you sure can begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: so begin TODAY to take part in The Schools Physical Education Program: Play team sports; have fun and games with your friends and fellow students: There is safety in numbers so you will make real and natural friends in your team mates with plenty of aquainatances to make you smile when you meet: Little brother will follow your example so he'll have a healthy mind in a healthy body too: Read Dalene's comment, you are highly intelligent you'll make sense of her loving encourageing words to you: Be safe: Stay safe: Always believe in yourself: Celebrate YOU: Hi I'm worth celebrating I am worth everything I'm special and I am the best: I love me: a big hug and cuddle Christina of yourself and indeed your brother:

Jun 09, 2011
SMILE AND BE YOU SELF
by: ASIA

DONT BLAME UR SELF HUNNY,IT WASNT UR FALT AT ALL THEY DID IT AND THEY WILL BE PUNISHED FOR THERE SINS AND GOD WILL HOPEFULEY HAVE MERCEY ON THERE SOULS JUST KEEP UR HEAD UP AND DONT LOOK BACK AND PRAY




GOD BLESS U

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