A small number of counsellors can be unhelpful

by Maurice
(Eire/Ireland)

I am not sure but here goes. Hayley's room is her personal room. What she related in it to me and visitors to Darlene's site was true and I believe her. Her brother was very wrong in all that he performed on her, drunk and all that he was. He knew what he was ordering her to do.

Hayley, bed wetting is natural in some children, but yours was was brought on by your naughty brother's behaviour on that night. He made you nervous while he was telling you what to do. Then that nervousness remained with you as you were scared to tell your parents, especially your mother.

Sibling abuse is real and does happen. You Hayley, please seek help, maybe even from another counsellor. I am wary of counsellors, as a small number can be most unhelpful and unprofessional in not moving their client on in their feelings of having been abused. While I accept telling what happens exactly is part of being helped, too is letting go of the trauma it caused you at the time.

Hayley, thank you. You were (are) very brave. You washed away the immediate effects of what your brother did by washing yourself. At the age you were 14 he seeing you naked added to your shame and the effects were greater on you. So begin to see your body beautiful and make it so by soothing creams and gentle massages. You can only make it beautiful.